Never take a man's surname...
...if you do decide to get married, that is. Why on earth do we still do this? I cannot get beyond how archaic this is. It’s not the 12th century anymore and the identity you have built for yourself around your name means much more than any marriage ever will. If you’re worried about any potential children not having the same name as you then give them your surname, simple! And who cares if your dodgy uncle has publicly tarnished the family name, just move to a new country like I did, nobody will ever know. Love from, Ms Dallison (
Always get ready.
Every morning, without fail. Especially during these days of lockdown. Get ready for your day as soon as you wake up - do your hair, put on lipstick, dress fabulously. Look good, feel good. It’s called warpaint for a reason!
Never trust a man with a moustache...
...or a woman who wears sunglasses inside.
Picasso didn’t have Instagram.
Every moment you catch yourself aimlessly scrolling, remind yourself that Picasso didn’t have Instagram. If you want to get closer to creating your masterpiece then put your bloody phone down.
Learn another language.
It is fantastic for your brain, it will help you see the world more openly and it adds to your CV and your street cred. Besides, everyone else can, so we (English speakers) should pull our collective finger out and become at least bilingual too.
I am very aware that even I can be positively awful sometimes, but being nice makes everyone around you happier, which in turn makes you happier. Selfishly unselfish.
Don’t dye your hair at home.
I can guarantee it will end up looking like shit.
Make sure your passport is up to date at all times.
Just take it from me. I’ll say no more.
Give people a break.
Today’s world is becoming increasingly black and white, left and right. ‘Cancel culture’ is out of control but people are people. Humans are allowed to make mistakes. Humans are allowed to apologise. Humans are allowed to forgive people. Do not define someone or something by that one bad thing they did once because it is not who or what they are (the exception to this being anything criminal, or deathly stupid, of course).
Travel as much as possible.
...to as many places as possible, as often as possible. And when you’re not travelling, travel in your mind. There is a world of wondrous books, films, articles, photographs, paintings etc that you can explore from the comfort of your couch all thanks to mother internet.
Only wear beautiful lingerie...
...every day, even to the gym. It will make you feel fabulous plus you never know where the day may take you…
Oh la la!
Do not waste your youth on age.
...my favourite quote from Mad Men. The myth of the older man being mature, worldly and experienced is a lie. Bar the odd exception, an older man who is dating a younger woman permanently has the maturity of a 25-year-old, is completely inflexible, and that, darling, is why he’s still single. He may be experienced, however he hasn’t learnt from his experiences. You want a partner you can grow with. Besides, he's a silver fox now but he’ll be wearing socks and sandals and wanting to move to a ‘lifestyle village’ by the time you’re ready to semi-retire. Boring!
Paint the walls anyway.
I have painted the walls in virtually every place I’ve ever lived in. Legally or illegally. Rental apartment beige is not worth it, and it looks even more terrible if you are prone to clutter or you’re a bit messy (yes, like me). Even if you repaint with a different, chicer white than the landlord’s likely cheap choice, you will elevate your space and make it feel like yours. Paint is less expensive than you think and you can do it yourself.
Don’t write people off.
It’s negative and ugly and yucky. Forgiveness will set you free. Distance and boundaries are key. There is no black and white when it comes to people, everyone is a shade of grey.
Let life take you where you need to go.
Your original plan will absolutely not work out, so don’t stress when it doesn’t. Let life take you to places you’re supposed to be. Something I’m still in the midst of learning...
I highly recommend doing a hydrating facemask on the plane.
Long-haul flights only, obvs. Every flight over three hours is the perfect place to create a pop-up beauty salon, in my humble opinion. Nobody wants to arrive in Paris after a 24 hour flight with skin so dry they've developed scales. Who cares if fellow passengers judge you. As my mother once said, 'you’re not going to meet your husband in
Do not get a spray-tan for your wedding day.
Nobody should get married looking like they’ve been marinated and you really don’t want your wedding photos to remind you of your school formal.
Embrace the view or ignore it completely.
If there’s a fabulous view outside your apartment window then centre the interior around that. If the view is hideous ignore it completely when setting your furniture set up. Apply this sentiment to every aspect to your life.
Don’t judge people on their star sign.
Unless they’re a ***
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Why don’t you just unfollow them?
Rather than spending an entire dinner party conversation speaking badly of others, why don’t you just unfollow said others on Instagram (or mute them if you’re obliged to follow them) and see how your life changes. The power of positivity.
Other people’s birthdays are about them...
...not about you and your ego. Same goes for weddings, funerals, your colleague’s last day at work, other couples trying to enjoy Valentine’s Day without you, etc. Leave it at the door, darling, it isn’t about you and nobody wants to know!
Convertibles give you wrinkles.
Think about it...